“Father, forgive them; they do not know what they are doing.” —Luke 23:34
Author Megan McKenna considers Jesus’ ability to forgive and how we are called to the same:
We were created to be the friends of Jesus, the friends of God, friends with one another…. And so, we begin this journey of becoming, this way of being in the world guided by Jesus’s own words and actions that we will repeat over and over again in all our relationships and in so many moments of our lives.
And the journey of becoming—of liberation—is the journey of forgiveness. As Jesus goes to the cross, tortured, in agony, he continues living with love, refusing to do evil, speaking the truth, doing justice, tending to all others with compassion, and relating to everyone with forgiveness and mercy….
In his suffering, Jesus’s first words from the cross are among his last words to his friends (and the world): Father, forgive them. Our lives of soul, spirit, heart as human beings made in God’s image begin, speak, and fulfill these words over and over again. Father, forgive them. Father, forgive us.
With Jesus, we pray always: Father, forgive them. It is Jesus’s foundational prayer with and for all of us, all ways…. We must forgive—we must begin with the words of forgiveness as a mantra that can transform our minds and souls. When we forgive, we do not consider all others as possible enemies but as possible neighbors, allies, and friends. And then we must forget—in the sense that we must make new memories, start relationships anew, open doors of possibility with different ways of relating to one another as equals, both and all intent on the fullness and wholeness of life shared and lived together as one. [1]
McKenna reminds us of the difficulty of true forgiveness:
Many of us pray the words of Jesus daily, with the Our Father. Midway through the prayer we say, “Forgive us our debts as we forgive those who are in debt to us.”…
We glibly pray this at every Eucharist and often in our personal prayers. Yet, it calls on us without any glibness. All of us know intimately how hard it is to forgive someone who has deeply offended and hurt us…. It is difficult to let go of the past and be present now to the other person and to all that it triggered in us….
It is hard for us to let go of bitterness that seems to rise up in our throats over time like bile—even after we have said the words of forgiveness to ourselves, and to others. We struggle to forgive the same person over and over again. Our broken hearts crack again and again…. But forgiveness is God’s greatest gift to all of us, setting us free to live as the beloved children of God. Forgiveness, more than any other act, perhaps, makes us like God. [2]
References:
[1] Megan McKenna, A Bowl of Perfect Light: Stories of Forgiveness, Reconciliation, and Repairing the World (Maryknoll, NY: Orbis Books, 2024), 7–8, 11.
[2] McKenna, Bowl, 45, 46.
Image credit and inspiration: Riho Kitagawa, Kintsugi pottery (detail), 2021, photo, Unsplash. Click here to enlarge image. Kintsugi is the artform of repairing a break with gold; we allow the pottery to move forward in grace and beauty, not by discarding or erasing, but by transforming the break into art.
Story from Our Community:
I am 67 years old, and I have had a full life. Even so, I wasted many years lost in addiction. I was raised Catholic, and it didn’t work for me, but these days I love to read the Daily Meditations each morning. I’m grateful for my capacity to change my mind, open my heart, and continue to grow. I offer my prayer of forgiveness for us all—even as we take for granted the very things we should most cherish.
—Lillian M.
