Father Richard describes relationship as the nature of God and reality:
The Christian belief in the Trinity says that God is absolute relatedness. God is our word for the ultimate ecosystem that holds all things in positive relationship (see Colossians 1:17). As long as we’re in honest and loving relationship with what is right in front of us, the Spirit can keep working in us, through us, and for us.
Jesus comes as a naked, vulnerable baby, totally dependent upon relationship with others. Naked vulnerability means that we allow otherness to influence and change us. When we think that otherness can’t change us or teach us anything, we don’t give other people any power over our lives. When we block them by thinking we can stand alone, we are spiritually dead. It’s true that nothing stands alone! We are intrinsically like the Trinity, living in an absolute relatedness. We call this love.
We really were made for love, and outside of love we die very quickly. If we are going to start with Trinity, then loving relationship is the universal pattern, the nature of our being. When we start with a philosophical concept of being and then try to convince everyone that this being is, in fact, love, we don’t have a lot of success. I’ve been a priest for over fifty years and can say that more Christians seem to be afraid of God than in love with God. Sadly, Christians aren’t more loving than anyone else; sometimes, we’re even less loving than other people! In some ways, that’s inevitable if we’re basically relating to God out of fear, if we haven’t been drawn into the love between the Father and the Son by the Spirit.
In some ways the Spirit is the hardest to describe. Jesus says, “The Spirit blows where it will” (John 3:8). Jesus’s message to us is clear: Don’t try to control the Spirit; don’t try to say where it comes from, where it goes, or who has it. It’s group narcissism to believe that only our group has the Spirit or the truth. At less mature levels, every group will try to put God in their own pocket and say God only loves their group, but such a belief has nothing to do with the love of God. It isn’t a search for Truth or Holy Mystery, but a search for control. It’s the search of the small self, the search to make myself feel superior and to stand alone.
I’m not in control or in charge of this Holy Mystery. I don’t presume to understand it; all I know is that I’m forever being drawn through everything. Each manifestation or epiphany of God calls for surrender, communion, and intimacy.
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Adapted from Richard Rohr and Cynthia Bourgeault, The Shape of God: Deepening the Mystery of the Trinity (Center for Action and Contemplation, 2004). Available as MP3 audio download.
Image credit and inspiration: Shivam Mistry, untitled (detail), 2020, photo, India, Unsplash. Click here to enlarge image. In a great and ever evolving mystery, the Divine pours into us as we empty ourselves.
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The deeper I surrender to the silence, the more relaxed I become. Prayers and affirmations are helpful to focus my mind, but when silence joins, there is nothing else to do in that moment except breathe. I become one with the River of Being that flows through all of us each moment. It gives me pause, knowing I am one with all that is. Blessings!
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